Thursday, November 18, 2010

Guest Post by Barbara Delinsky & Giveaway!

Barbara Delinsky (c) Mark Bennington
Please join me in welcoming Barbara Delinsky, author of Not My Daughter (my review) to The Book Chick today! When I was reading Not My Daughter I couldn't help but think what a fantastic book club read this would be, and today Barbara Delinsky shares with us her own experiences with book clubs.

Book Groups and Me

"I’ve met with more than 200 book groups—mostly by speakerphone but plenty in person, too—in the last few years. But when I say that I have a long history with book groups, I’m usually talking about my own. My book group has been going strong for 23 years now. We don’t have a fancy name – we just call ourselves BOOK GROUP. Our membership roster has 16 names on it, though we usually get 10 to 12 bodies at a meeting. We meet once a month, pick our books for the year over dinner each June, and our list has included fiction and non-fiction, everything from classics to hot new titles. There are no other writers in the group, which means that I bring a different perspective to the discussion.


That said, we don’t read my books. At least, we didn’t until last November. Prior to then, I’d always rejected the idea. I felt we’d all be too uncomfortable – me, because my baby would be the dartboard on the wall, the others, because they’d be afraid to shoot darts. I didn’t think it would be an honest discussion.

Why did I change my mind? Quite frankly, we had simply read one too many books that were supposedly hot book group titles but that left our group with little to discuss. I knew there was lots to discuss in my novels, any one of which would spark an interesting evening. And one did, once I finally got brave enough to give our group the OK to choose one of my books. We chose While My Sister Sleeps, which is about two young women—Robin, a classic overachiever with more than a bit of local fame, and Molly, her self-effacing and lower-key younger sister. When Robin suffers a sudden massive heart attack, her parents fall apart and it’s left to Molly to make the tough decisions. Molly soon makes discoveries that shatter some of her most cherished beliefs about the sister she thought she knew. Our group went on talking an hour later than usual—no dart boards needed. This experience underscored what I had been starting to suspect (hope?) as the meetings with book clubs have mounted up over the past few years—readers who belong to and enjoy book clubs love my novels. I can think of few compliments that please me more because I know how much my own book club means to me.

With regard to my newest novel Not My Daughter, my goal was to make readers—and book group members—think. Think about the limits of friendship. The effect of peer pressure. The meaning of being a good mother. These are the themes of this novel. And love. Not My Daughter is packed with love – love between mother and daughter, between husband and wife, between friends.

Love. It’s a beautiful 4-letter word that, sadly, in some circles, is considered soft, or frothy, or … or feminine. But it takes two to tango, doesn’t it? What about men? Don’t they love? Of course, they do. They often write about it, too. Isn’t that what the macho adventure writer is doing when the guy gets the girl at the end of the chase? There are any number of prominent male writers, whom I will not name here, who include relationships in their books. Are they called Romance writers? Or frothy? Or unserious? Of course not. I’ve occasionally thought of writing under a male pseudonym just to see what kind of reception my books would get. Think about it. It’s an interesting premise.

The heart of Not My Daughter goes beyond the girls to their moms – three women who feel the fallout, personally and professionally, of what their daughters have done. How do we define a good mother? At what point are our kids responsible for themselves? Where should our loyalties lie – with family or with friends?

Now that the novel is finally available in paperback, I want to invite book groups to discuss these questions, if possible with me on the other end of the phone. I usually talk with book groups 2, 3, even 4 times a week—because I love talking through these issues. Life and how other people experience it are endlessly fascinating to me. If any book groups reading this post are interested in having me join them for a chat about Not My Daughter, you’ll find a simple form on my website, www.barbaradelinsky.com. Fill it out, and my assistant Lucy will work with you to coordinate times. It’s really that easy!"

Thank-you so much to Barbara for taking the time to stop by, even though she's deep into writing her next novel.

About the author: BARBARA DELINSKY is the author of more than seventeen bestselling novels with over twenty million copies in print. She has been published in twenty-five languages worldwide. Barbara lives with her family in New England.

My blog is not the only one that Barbara is visiting this week! Be sure to visit the following blogs who are participating in her blog tour:

Always With a Book (November 15 & 16)
Book Obsessed (November 17)
Library Girl Reads (November 19)

Now for the giveaway! Jen at Random House has generously offered five of my readers a chance to win one of their hottest paperbacks! If you win, you can choose one of the following books as your prize:

Cutting For Stone by Abraham Verghese
Devil in the White City by Erik Larson
A Gate At The Stairs by Lorrie Moore
Girl With the Dragon Tattoo by Stieg Larson
Half the Sky by Nicholas Kristof and Sheryl WuDunn
Never Let Me Go by Kazuo Ishiguro
One Day by David Nicholls
The Year of the Flood by Margaret Atwood
Persuasion by Jane Austen, annotated by David Shapard

Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austen, annotated by David Shapard

To Enter:

1. *Mandatory Entry* Let me know what book you would choose if you win OR tell me if you've ever read a book by Barbara Delinsky (no need to do both unless you feel like it- this only counts for one entry). Please leave me your e-mail address so that I can contact you if you win. No e-mail= no entry!

2. *Bonus Entry* Become a follower of this blog through Google Friend Connect and leave me a separate comment to let me know that you now follow. Already a follower? Thanks! Just leave me a separate comment to let me know that you already follow.

3. *Bonus Entry* Spread the word about this contest in whatever way you wish. You can Facebook about it, Tweet the link, blog about it or add it to your sidebar. Whatever you choose to do, make sure that you leave me a separate comment to let me know what you did (maximum 1 bonus entry for this option).

This contest will run until December 2, 2010 at midnight EST. Winners will be notified by e-mail and will have 48 hours to respond. All prizes will be sent out directly from the publisher. Those with Canadian and US mailing addresses are eligible to win. Good luck!

65 comments:

  1. I would choose; Girl With the Dragon Tattoo by Stieg Larson.

    freda.mans[at]sympatico.ca

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  2. Already a GFC follower.

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  3. tweet; http://twitter.com/#!/fredalicious/status/5295766029467648

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  4. I would pick Year of the Flood by Margaret Atwood. Today is her birthday btw.

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  5. Thanks for this great giveaway contest. I would enjoy reading Cutting for Stone. saubleb(at)gmail(dot)com

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  6. A Gate at The Stairs would be my selection. Thanks. rojosho(at)hotmail(dot)com

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  7. I would choose A Gate at the Stairs. onlymikesstacia@yahoo.com

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  8. No need to enter me, babe. I'd love to see how book clubs would approach my book... one of these days. I think I need a deeper backlist before I can start down that road. It'll give me some emotional distance from the book.

    Anyway, be sure to send me the link to this post over at Win a Book, okay? This is too good to not share!

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  9. I would choose Cutting for Stone. I really want to read Not My Daughter. I added it to my wish list after reading so many favorable reviews.

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  10. I am a GFC follower.

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  11. Yes Yes Yes Barbara Delinsky is one of my favorite Authors I have spent many an afternoon or evening curled up in a chair with one of her books glued to my face. debbiburnie@yahoo.ca

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  12. I would choose Devil in the White City. Interesting blog post. I love reading about other people's book clubs - how they manage things, the books they've read, etc.

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  13. I'll have to think about which book I would like...and I'm a serious reader of BD novels...she is wonderful...(-: pianolady_62 at yahoo. THANKS

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  14. I am subscrbed to this blog...thanks! pianolady_62 at yahoo.

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  15. Oh! I've only read one of Barbara Delinsky's books, but I LOVED it!! Can't wait to read more!

    I would love Girl With the Dragon Tattoo by Stieg Larson or Devil in the White City by Erik Larson.

    Thanks for the chance to win!
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  16. I also follow with GFC!!

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  17. Cutting For Stone by Abraham Verghese

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  18. What a great post. I just joined a book club and we're meeting for the first time this weekend. I'm excited and a bit nervous!

    If I won, I'd choose The Year of Flood.

    Thanks for this giveaway!

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  19. I'm a Google Friend Connect follower!

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  20. I would choose girl with the dragon tattoo. girl23rocks@hotmail.com

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  21. I follow you via GFC. (girl23rocks)
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  22. tweeted: http://twitter.com/#!/Alliegal101/status/5462717922021376
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  23. I would choose The Year of the Flood by Margaret Atwood

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  24. I would choose "Girl With the Dragon Tattoo" by Stieg Larson

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  25. I am a loyal follower!!

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  26. OOH! 'A Gate at the Stairs' for me!

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  27. i subscribed via google reader, because the GFC wasn't working for me, will have to check back again..new follower to your blog! love it!

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  28. i tweeted! (and follow you on twitter now)

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  29. Ooh, I definitely need to pick up a book by Delinsky!

    If I win, I'd go with Never Let Me Go by Kazuo Ishiguro. I've heard such good things!

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  30. I would have to choose "Cutting for Stone", as I have wanted it for a while and just haven't seen it when I'm book shopping. Thanks for the chance to win!

    Julie @ Knitting and Sundries
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  31. I follow via GFC as jewelknits!

    Julie @ Knitting and Sundries
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  32. No need to enter me! I just posted this at win a book!
    http://winabook.westofmars.com/2010/11/20/the-book-chick-has-a-wonderful-giveaway/

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  33. I would choose the book 'Cutting for Stone'.. I have heard such great reviews of it! Thank you for this contest! :)
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  34. I follow via google friend connect! :)

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  35. Tweet!
    http://twitter.com/bcteagirl/status/6055276587261952

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  36. I would choose Pride & Prejudice.

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  37. I follow with GFC

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  38. I would select the Girl with the Dragon Tattoo because I've heard so much about it.

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  39. GFC follower.

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  40. Not my daughter!
    Carla
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  41. I think I would select One Day although honestly, they all look quite good!

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  42. I follow via Google Friend Connect

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  43. I tweeted about the contest (twitter handle - booksnyc)

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  44. I'd like to be entered to win Never Let Me Go by Kazuo Ishiguro.

    I've never read any of Delinsky's work.

    Thanks for the giveaway! milou2ster(at)gmail.com

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  45. I would probably choose Girl With the Dragon Tattoo by Stieg Larson. aitmama {{at}} gmail {{tod}} com

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  46. Follower aitmama {{at}} gmail {{tod}} com

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  47. http://twitter.com/aitmama/status/7189483376091136

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  48. I would pick A Gate at the Stairs.
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  49. I am a follower.
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  50. I'd definitely pick Never Let Go, I want to read it but the waiting list at the library is really long.

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  51. I hadn't met this author before and it was good to read the interview.

    Please enter me in the contest. I'd like to win Cutting for Stone

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  52. So many good books! I would choose Never Let Me Go!

    Smallb@gmail.com

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  53. I am already a follower of this amazing blog! Thank you for posting this contest!!

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  54. I'd pick The Year of the Flood by Margaret Atwood. I keep meaning to get to her recent work and always forget when I'm picking up books.
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  55. I'd choose Stieg Larson's Girl With the Dragon Tattoo--judging from all the people reading it on the subway, I'm pretty sure I'm the only one in New York City who hasn't read it!

    Thanks for hosting such a great giveaway!

    shanaelyse@gmail.com

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  56. I follow on GFC!

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  57. I'd choose either Girl With the Dragon Tattoo by Stieg Larson or Never Let Me Go by Kazuo Ishiguro.

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  58. I'm a follower.

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  59. I tweeted:

    http://twitter.com/aikchien/status/10285404401958912

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  60. I would choose A Gate At the Stairs.

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  61. I follow on GFC

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